{"id":4539,"date":"2024-04-17T04:27:52","date_gmt":"2024-04-17T04:27:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/gosoluciones.mx\/?p=4539"},"modified":"2024-04-17T04:32:09","modified_gmt":"2024-04-17T04:32:09","slug":"should-you-swipe-right-on-your-ex-on-a-dating-app-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/gosoluciones.mx\/index.php\/2024\/04\/17\/should-you-swipe-right-on-your-ex-on-a-dating-app-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Should you swipe right on your ex on a dating app?"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><title>Should you swipe right on your ex on a dating app?<\/title><\/p>\n<p>You say you want help overcoming\/owning an awkward situation, but there&#8217;s nothing really to own here. No one has done anything wrong. As for the overcoming part, you shouldn&#8217;t consider this situation a rejection. I think you should shift away from thinking your past conversations haven&#8217;t effectively wooed her into thinking this is just not the right person for you. You shouldn&#8217;t have to fight to keep someone&#8217;s interest ever in a relationship, but especially at the beginning.<\/p>\n<p>I get she doesn&#8217;t feel like a stranger. You&#8217;ve talked. You&#8217;ve seen her life unfold on Facebook. I think those details coupled with her recurring appearance on the app have maybe intensified the way you feel toward her. This happens a lot! It&#8217;s easy to project onto people we barely know and romanticize our connection with them. But this person isn&#8217;t the one that got away. Again, that concept is just rom-com fantasy. Social media and dating apps don&#8217;t paint a full picture of a person, and at the end of the day, what do you really know about her after a couple brief chats? I understand you want a chance to get to know her better, but if she wanted the same, it likely would have happened already. I think you should focus your energy on talking to people who want to talk to you.<!--more--> There are other people out there who will be thrilled to keep the conversation going.<\/p>\n<h2>It&#8217;s easy to fantasize about the potential of someone and the potential of a relationship<\/h2>\n<p>Before you go! Autostraddle runs on the reader support of our AF+ Members. If this article meant something to you today &#8211; if it informed you or made you smile or feel seen, will you consider joining AF and supporting the people who make this queer media site possible?<\/p>\n<p>You&#8217;re swiping through the sea of faces on Tinder (or wherever) and suddenly see a familiar face pop up. It&#8217;s your ex and now your brain is going at hyperspeed thinking about your next move. Left or Right. What&#8217;s the move? I&#8217;m firmly planted in one camp and hopefully, by the end of this post, you will be too.<\/p>\n<p>I know you&#8217;re probably overthinking it and are convincing yourself that there&#8217;s no harm. I would like to argue though that a flick of the wrist in the wrong direction can cause you unnecessary emotional TURMOIL.<\/p>\n<p>This is not a sign from the universe that you&#8217;re actually meant to be. You&#8217;re seeing him because of an algorithm, babe. He&#8217;s just geographically close to you.<\/p>\n<p>If you&#8217;re debating this much on swiping right on him, your head is probably telling you it&#8217;s a dumb move but your heart is screaming to go for it.<\/p>\n<p>Sometimes we have to let logic win to protect ourselves from hurting our own feelings. You are on a dating <a href=\"https:\/\/kissbrides.com\/fi\/virolaiset-morsiamet\/\">Viro morsiamet<\/a> app to find someone new, not reconnect with a person with who you already know you&#8217;re incompatible.<\/p>\n<h2>Why You Shouldn&#8217;t Swipe Right on Your Ex<\/h2>\n<p>If this is a guy you were really into and are upset that it didn&#8217;t work out, don&#8217;t talk to him. It may rekindle feelings and make it even harder to get over him.<\/p>\n<p>A major part of getting over someone is letting go of that little hope you have that you&#8217;ll get back together. Talking to him is a step backward and will probably just hurt your feelings.<\/p>\n<p>You guys are both on a dating app. He is actively looking for someone new and you are too! So, don&#8217;t get distracted by the past. Sometimes God is just testing you to see if you&#8217;re still stupid.<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Should you swipe right on your ex on a dating app? You say you want help overcoming\/owning an awkward situation, but there&#8217;s nothing really to own here. No one has done anything wrong. As for the overcoming part, you shouldn&#8217;t consider this situation a rejection. I think you should shift away from thinking your past&hellip; <a class=\"more-link\" href=\"https:\/\/gosoluciones.mx\/index.php\/2024\/04\/17\/should-you-swipe-right-on-your-ex-on-a-dating-app-2\/\">Continue reading <span class=\"screen-reader-text\">Should you swipe right on your ex on a dating app?<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":[],"categories":[1650],"tags":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/gosoluciones.mx\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4539"}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/gosoluciones.mx\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/gosoluciones.mx\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gosoluciones.mx\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gosoluciones.mx\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=4539"}],"version-history":[{"count":1,"href":"https:\/\/gosoluciones.mx\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4539\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":4540,"href":"https:\/\/gosoluciones.mx\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/4539\/revisions\/4540"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/gosoluciones.mx\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=4539"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gosoluciones.mx\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=4539"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/gosoluciones.mx\/index.php\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=4539"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}